7 famantarana fa tsy mandeha ny fifandraisanao

1. Amin'ny alina vao mihaona ianao.

Hoy i Vera: “Nankany amiko izy na nanasa ahy ho any aminy, ary tara be foana ny andro. “Mazava ho azy fa ny firaisana ihany no liana tamin’ny firaisana, nefa tsy te hiaiky izany aho. Nanantena aho fa hiova ny zava-drehetra rehefa mandeha ny fotoana ary hifandray tanteraka izahay. Tsy nitranga izany, ary vao mainka nifikitra taminy aho.”

2. Ao an-trano ihany no mandany fotoana.

“Mazava ho azy fa samy manana andro te handry eo am-pandriana sy hijerena filma ny tsirairay, kanefa ny fiarahana dia manoro hevitra ny hanokana fotoana ho mpivady: mandehandeha eran’ny tanàna, mandeha mijery sarimihetsika na sinema, mihaona amin’ny namana”, hoy i Anna. "Izaho dia takatro fa ny tsy fahasahiany hivoaka any ho any dia tsy noho ny maha-tompon-trano azy (araka ny tiako eritreretina), fa noho izy liana indrindra tamin'ny firaisana tamiko."

3. Ny firaisana ara-nofo ihany no resahiny.

"Tamin'ny voalohany dia nihevitra aho fa tena tia ahy izy ary ny fifantohana tafahoatra amin'ny lohahevitra momba ny firaisana dia fanehoana ny fitiavany," hoy i Marina nizara. “Na izany aza, tsy nahafinaritra ny nahazo sary mazava momba ny faritra akaiky azy tamin'ny hafatra rehefa tsy nangataka izany aho. Raiki-pitia aho ary elaela aho vao niaiky fa zava-mitranga hafa ho azy izany. "

4. Mifanohitra amin’ny asany ny teniny

"Ny teny fiderana sy fanomezan-toky be loatra dia antony tokony ho mailo sy hijerena hoe inona no tena vonona," hoy i Maria azo antoka. “Rehefa narary ny reniko ka nilaina ny fanohanan’ny namako, dia nazava izany: nilaza ireo teny mahafinaritra rehetra ireo izy mba hahatongavako any.”

5. Manafoana ny fanendrena izy

“Matetika aho no nandray ny andraikitry ny mpikarakara ny fotoam-pialan-tsasatray”, hoy ny fieken’i Inga. “Ary na dia eo aza izany, dia afaka nanafoana ny fivorianay tamin'ny fotoana farany izy, tamin'ny filazana raharaha maika. Indrisy anefa fa tara loatra aho fa tsy tonga ho azy ilay olona azonao ilaozana be dia be.

6. Mikatona loatra izy

“We all differ in varying degrees of openness, however, if you trust him with information about yourself, and in return you get only a game of mysterious prince, he is most likely either hiding something from you, or does not consider you as a partner for a long-term relationship,” I’m sure Arina. — I have long lived with the illusion that he is simply taciturn and does not introduce me to family and friends, because he wants to test our relationship and introduce me to them as a bride in the future. Later it turned out that such secrecy gave him the opportunity to maintain relationships with several women at the same time.

7. Tsy avelany ny telefaonina

“He just has a responsible job — this is how I justified my friend, until I finally realized: if he is easily distracted by extraneous calls and messages, this indicates not only his lack of education, but also that I am not very dear to him, ”- admits Tatyana.

"Ny fifandraisana toy izany dia manambara ny olany manokana amin'ny tsy fahampian'ny fanohanana anatiny"

Natalia Artsybasheva, mpitsabo gestalt

Inona no afaka mampiray ny vehivavy izay mitazona fifandraisana toy izany? Ny modely fiaraha-miasa dia napetraka amin'ny fifandraisana amin'ny ray aman-dreny. Raha nahazo fitiavana, fanohanana ary fiarovana ampy isika, dia mandalo amin'ny mpiara-miasa izay mora amin'ny fifandraisana manimba sy ny fampiasana.

If, in childhood, one had to earn parental love, take responsibility for the emotional instability or infantilism of the parents, this unconsciously migrates to adult relationships. Love is associated with self-restraint, unhealthy self-sacrifice. We are looking for a partner who resurrects a childhood situation. And the state «I’m not feeling well» is associated with «this is love.»

A distorted sense of security is formed in the relationship. If parents did not give this feeling, then in adulthood there may be problems with a sense of self-preservation. Like those women who «miss» danger signals. Therefore, it is not so important what these alarm bells are in relationships with unreliable men. First of all, it is worth starting off not from them, but from your inner “holes” that such partners fill. A confident person will not allow such a relationship to develop.

Afaka ovaina ve ity modely ity? Eny, fa tsy mora, ary mahomby kokoa ny manao izany miaraka amin`ny psikology. Ilaina ny mamerina ny fahatsapana anaty filaminana, mba hahazoana fanohanana ao amin'ny tena. Amin'ity tranga ity, tsy mahafoy ny fifandraisana ianao, fa tsy mahatsapa hetaheta maharary ny fitiavana mba hamenoana ny fahabangana ao anaty, hanamaivana ny fanaintainana ary hahazoana antoka. Afaka mandamina izany fitiavana sy filaminana izany ny tenanao.

Avy eo ny fifandraisana vaovao dia tsy lasa tsipika fiainana, fa fanomezana ho anao sy haingo ho an'ny fiainanao efa tena tsara.