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In everyday life, psychopaths are called people with an explosive temperament or simply eccentric. But strictly speaking, psychopathy is a personality disorder. And statistically, most psychopaths are men.

They can be extremely charming, suave, and sociable on the surface, but long-term relationships with them are very toxic to their partners.

How to understand that we are facing a psychopath, and not just a person with a complex character? Of course, only a specialist can make a diagnosis, but here are some alarming signals worth paying attention to.

1. He looks down on you.

A psychopath directly or indirectly emphasizes his superiority over a partner who allegedly falls short of his level: “You are stupid and uneducated”, “You are too emotional”, “You are fat and notorious.”

Next to a psychopathic personality, the partner feels like a «junior in rank», worthless and unworthy, whose task is to please and appease his idol.

2. His declarations of love are quickly replaced by indifference.

He can look after you beautifully, and your honeymoon will be so romantic … But pretty quickly he cools down and begins to treat you dismissively. Relationships with a psychopath are like a roller coaster: he either loves or hates, quarrels alternate with stormy reconciliations. Disrespect quickly turns into insults.

For his victim, this situation is truly traumatic and fraught with depression, neurosis, drug or alcohol abuse. And in any case — post-traumatic syndrome.

3. He does not know how to admit his own guilt

He is never responsible for what is happening and for his actions — others are always to blame. Even when his guilt is obvious, he deftly distorts and presents what happened as an involuntary mistake or joke. Or assures that he was misunderstood. Or that the partner is simply too sensitive. In a word, he does everything to minimize his responsibility.

4. He uses manipulation to win you over.

For the psychopath, courtship is only a game or a sport: he seduces with manipulative tricks that are neither warm nor sincere. Kindness, attention, care, gifts, travel are just a means for him to get what he wants. He expects that later, when the candy-bouquet period is over, the partner will pay for all this with obedience.

5. One partner isn’t enough for him.

The psychopath does not know how to build close, sincere relationships, he quickly becomes fed up and sets off in search of new adventures. This does not mean that he will immediately leave the annoying victim — such people know how to combine several novels at once.

6. He reacts aggressively to any criticism.

Outwardly, he gives the impression of an imperious, narcissistic and soulless person who does not care about the experiences of others. But how sharply and with what aggression he reacts when he is criticized, questioned or neglected!

The reason is not that he is not confident in himself or needs the approval of others. No, the whole point is that he believes in his superiority and power over others. And therefore, he cannot stand it if someone points out his weaknesses or “wrongly” communicates with him.

7. It is important for him to feel like a winner in everything.

In his view, the world is divided into winners and losers. And it is very important for him to be among the first in everything, even in small things. This attitude is incompatible with healthy relationships that involve cooperation, compromise, and the ability to repent.

8. Next to him you lose the ability to reason.

With a sufficiently long relationship, the psychopath’s partner begins to experience cognitive impairment: he may have problems with memory, concentration, attention, motivation, and self-organization. He becomes distracted, less effective, and anxiety overwhelms him.

9. He wants to dominate

The psychopath likes to humiliate, control and devalue others — this is how he asserts his power over you. But he cannot stand it if they try to point out his behavior to him, and falls into a rage. Moreover, he tries to take revenge on the «offender».

10. He often hides the truth

This is another manifestation of his manipulative tendencies. He can only be silent about something or lie to his face. Moreover, a lie can concern both minor trifles and very important things — a child on the side, a permanent partner or marital status.

11. He has no morals

The psychopath is dismissive of social norms and moral rules and easily steps over them. Cheating of all kinds, theft, harassment, intimidation, vindictiveness towards those who stand in his way — all means are good for him.

12. He is not capable of deep feelings.

With a superficial acquaintance, he can charm and show sympathy, which he is not really capable of. In dealing with a stranger, a psychopath can prove to be much better than he is used to behaving with a partner — especially if he needs to impress a strong person or cause envy.

13. He declares himself a victim

This is a typical form of manipulation when psychopaths communicate with an ordinary person who has empathy. They use our capacity for empathy and compassion, portraying themselves as unfortunate victims — and receive forgiveness for any transgressions. This allows them to avoid blame and responsibility and achieve their goals.

14. Kindness and respect are alien to him

They do not have a developed sense of empathy, so the partner is forced each time to explain to him anew how to humanly treat other people and what he expects in relation to himself: “Don’t talk to me like that! Please stop lying! Why are you so cruel and rude to me?”

15. You feel like you’ll never be good enough.

The psychopath tends to blame, criticize, and thereby belittle his partner: “You dressed like a walker! You didn’t clean the house well! You are so dumb! Don’t say a word to you! Think how vulnerable! How annoying!” He interprets any requests or demands of a partner as attempts to control him and perceives with hostility.

About the author: Rhonda Freeman is a clinical neuropsychologist.