Hevitra ato Anatiny
Parents act quite reasonably, not paying attention to minor misconduct and pranks of children. This teaches the child that such antics will not attract attention to themselves, and as a result, he is unlikely to behave this way again. However, some actions cannot be ignored.
In her ten-year practice, family therapist Leanne Evila has identified several behavioral problems in children that require immediate parental response.
1. Manapaka izy
Faly amin'ny zavatra iray ny zanakao ary te hiresaka momba izany avy hatrany. Raha avelanao hitsabaka amin’ny resaka izy ka hanapaka anao, dia asehonao mazava tsara fa azo atao izany. Tsy hampianatra ny zanakao hieritreritra momba ny hafa àry ianao, ka hitady zavatra ho an’ny tenany. Ampahafantaro azy fa be atao ianao, rehefa mitady hanapaka anao ny zanakao. Soso-kevitra izay azony lalaovina.
2. Manitatra izy
Ny zava-drehetra dia manomboka amin'ny zavatra kely. Nilaza izy tamin’ny voalohany fa vitany ny ananany, na dia zara raha nokasihiny aza. Ity lainga kely ity, mazava ho azy, dia tsy manisy ratsy na iza na iza, fa ny tenin'ny zaza dia tsy mifanaraka amin'ny zava-misy. Mety hihevitra ianao fa tsy misy dikany izany, saingy mety hitombo ny fironana handainga rehefa mandeha ny fotoana.
Marina fa zava-dehibe ny mitadidy fa eo amin’ny roa ka hatramin’ny efa-taona, dia mbola tsy takatry ny zaza ny atao hoe fahamarinana sy lainga. Derao ny ankizy rehefa milaza ny marina. Ampianaro hanao ny marina izy ireo, na dia miteraka olana aza izany.
3. Mody tsy mandre izy
Tsy tokony hangataka imbetsaka ny ankizy mba hanaisotra kilalao na hiditra ao anaty fiara. Ny tsy firaharahana ny fangatahanao amin'ny lafiny iray dia ady amin'ny fahefana. Rehefa mandeha ny fotoana dia hiharatsy ihany izany.
The next time you need to ask your son or daughter for something, go up to your child and look him in the eye.
Get him or her to say, «Okay, Mom (Dad).» If your child is watching TV, you can turn it off. If necessary, as a punishment, you can deprive the child of entertainment — for example, reduce the time spent on gadgets from an hour to half an hour.
4. Tsy mahalala fomba loatra izy mandritra ny lalao.
If your older son is beating his younger brother, naturally you will intervene. But you can’t turn a blind eye to less obvious manifestations of aggression — for example, if he pushes his brother or ignores him. Such behavior must be stopped at an early age, otherwise it will only get worse later. If you allow your child to behave in this way, then as if showing him that it is permissible to hurt others.
Ento anilany ny zanakao ary hazavao aminy fa tsy izany no fomba hanaovana izany. Aza avela hiara-milalao amin’ny zandriny izy raha tsy efa mianatra mitondra tena tsara.
5. Maka zava-mamy izy nefa tsy mangataka
It is convenient when a son or daughter grabs something to eat and turn on the TV without disturbing you. When a two-year-old reaches for a cookie lying on the table, it looks cute. Otherwise, it will look when, at the age of eight, he or she at a party begins to grab sweets without permission. It is important to establish certain rules at home and make sure that the children know them well.
6. Tsy mahalala fomba izy
Afaka manomboka tsy mahalala fomba ny ankizy hatramin'ny taom-pianarana. Manahaka ny fihetsiky ny ray aman-dreniny izy ireo ary mijery ny fihetsik’izy ireo. Matetika ny ray aman-dreny no tsy miraharaha, mieritreritra fa handalo izany. Raha avelanao hanao tsy manaja anefa ny zanakao, dia tsy ho voafehy intsony ny toe-javatra rehefa mandeha ny fotoana.
Ampahafantaro ny ankizy fa hitanao ny fomba nanoratany ny masony. Zava-dehibe ny hahatonga azy ho menatra noho ny fitondran-tenany. Hazavao amin’izay koa fa manaiky hiresaka aminy ianao rehefa vonona hiresaka amim-panajana sy amim-panajana izy.