"Ny fianakaviako dia manohitra ahy amin'ny fikarakarana ny tenako"

Raha te hihaona amin'ny namana ianao, mandehana any amin'ny kilasy dihy, na mandeha irery fotsiny, mila mitady antony marim-pototra ve ianao, sa miaritra fijery mampalahelo toy izany ka aleonao mijanona ao an-trano? “Tian’izy ireo hiaraka amiko daholo ny fotoanany malalaka”, toa inona no mety ho tsara kokoa? Mila anao ny olona tianao! Saingy ny tsirairay amintsika dia mila toerana manokana sy fotoana kely ho an'ny tenantsika.

Mampianatra fanao Taoista vehivavy aho. Miandrandra seminera vaovao ny tovovavy. Saingy matetika izy ireo ao an-trano dia tsy mankasitraka ny fialamboliny: "tsara kokoa raha mijanona aminay ianao ..." Sarotra ny mandray fanapahan-kevitra: amin'ny lafiny iray, hetsika mahaliana, amin'ny lafiny iray, fianakaviana mila anao. I began to look for the cause of this imbalance: for classes, you need only 2-3 hours in the evening. The rest of the day the mother is at home (but they miss and do not let even those who spend the whole day in the family), tomorrow — also with you. And the day after tomorrow. Empirically, we found the «root of evil.» The situation in which the whole family is so zealous about maternal affairs signals that the family misses her. They lack her attention, tenderness, energy.

Holazaiko aminao ny anton'izao krizy angovo izao sy ny fomba hanafoanana izany. Mety ho toy izany koa ve ny toe-javatra misy anao?

Antony mahatonga ny krizy angovo

Ny tsy fahampiana

We all live in a state of «energy crisis»: food quality, ecology, lack of sleep, not to mention stress. During the holidays, when strength arrives, we want to play with the child, and the relationship with the husband becomes brighter. If there is no strength, then no matter How long time a woman spends with her family, she will not be enough for them — because she is not able to share warmth and joy. And the family will wait and ask: give the one with which it is interesting. And mothers, in order to gain strength, should go for a massage or do yoga — but you can’t, because the family does not let you. Vicious circle!

saina tsy feno

This is the second common cause, which is largely related to the first. A child (and a husband) needs quality time together — it is characterized by undivided, bright, interested attention that you give to him.

Ao amin'ny fianakaviana sasany, ny toe-javatra dia toy izao manaraka izao: ny hery rehetra lany amin'ny fandrahoan-tsakafo, mandeha (ny zaza mandeha, Neny mamaha ny zava-misy amin'ny finday), ny fanadiovana, simultaneous fivoriana fanamarinana ny lesona sy ny fijerena mailaka. Mizara ho asa maromaro indray mandeha ny saina: toa ny reny sy ny zanany no mandany ny andro iray manontolo, fa samy sahirana amin'ny raharahany manokana, ary tsy misy fifandraisana feno. Ary raha misy zaza tsy manan-janaka mandritra ny andro, ary amin'ny takariva dia nesorina taminy ny farany, dia misy antony tokony hahasosotra: nanantena ny handany fotoana miaraka aminy ihany izy.

Ity toe-javatra ity dia mifandray amin'ny voalohany: miparitaka amin'ny zavatra maro ny saina (izay tsy maintsy atao raha mbola misy ny fotoana) manoloana ny tsy fahampian'ny hery tanteraka. Miampy ny fiankinantsika amin'ny smartphones.

Ny vahaolana

Inona no tokony hatao mba ho faly ny fianakaviana handefa antsika amin'ny hariva / tolakandro / maraina ary faly mihaona rehefa avy nanao fanatanjahan-tena na nihaona tamin'ny namana?

Isao ny fofonainao; Mifantoha tsara amin'ny tsirairay izay mikoriana eo ambanin'ny felatanao. Atombohy amin'ny telo minitra ny fanazaran-tena: alohan'ny hipetrahanao, apetraho mandritra ny 3 minitra ny fanairana and as soon as he gives the signal, stop. Even if you want to continue. Leave this «hunger» for tomorrow, because the secret of successful meditation is not in its duration, but in regularity. After a week, you can increase the duration by 1 minute. Then — one more.

Araka ny fikarohana siantifika farany, mba hamelombelona ny atidoha, hahazo hery fanampiny ary handanjalanja ny fihetseham-po, dia mila misaintsaina mandritra ny 12 minitra isan'andro ianao. Manomboka amin'ny telo ary mandroso mankany amin'io isa io.

2. Atolory ho an'ny fianakaviana ny fanaonao

There is one catch: if our relatives miss us, then daily meditation can also become a stumbling block. So when you sit down to meditate or go to a sport or start a new business, say to yourself: I am doing this to get energy to share with my loved ones. Thus, we dedicate our studies to them. And — I don’t know how or why — but it works! Of course, loved ones will not know what we say to ourselves — but at some level this dedication is felt. And believe me, it will become easier for you to allocate personal time.