Hevitra ato Anatiny
Most of us agree that a decent material level allows us to plan the future more calmly and confidently, provide assistance to loved ones, and opens up new opportunities for self-realization. At the same time, very often we ourselves unconsciously forbid ourselves financial well-being. Why and how do we set these internal barriers?
Despite the fact that the fear of money is usually not realized, we find good reasons to justify the current state of affairs. What are the most common irrational beliefs that get in our way?
“The train has left”, or the syndrome of missed opportunities
“Everything has been divided up for a long time, before it was necessary to move”, “everything around is only for bribes”, “I soberly assess my strengths” – this is how we often justify our inaction. “It seems to many that there were once blessed times that they missed for some reason, and now it’s useless to do anything,” explains psychotherapist Marina Myaus. – This passive position makes it possible to be in the role of a victim, gaining the right to inaction. However, life gives us a whole range of opportunities, and it is up to us to decide how to use them.”
The possibility of losing loved ones
Money gives us the resources to change our lives. The level of comfort increases, we can travel more, get new experiences. However, in the depths of our souls, we feel that they can begin to envy us. “Unconsciously, we are afraid that if we become successful, they will stop loving and accepting us,” comments Marina Myaus. “The fear of being rejected and out of the loop can keep us from moving forward.”
Growing responsibility
A potential business is our and only our area of responsibility, and this burden, most likely, will not be shared with anyone. There will be a need to constantly think about your business, figure out how to beat competitors, which means that the level of stress will inevitably increase.
Thoughts that we’re not ready yet
“The feeling that we have not yet matured professionally to seek promotion suggests that we are most likely led by an inner child who is more comfortable giving up adult responsibility for the sake of a calm infantile position,” says Marina Myaus. As a rule, a person justifies himself by saying that he does not have enough knowledge or experience and therefore he is not worthy of a larger amount for his work.
Ahoana no isehoany?
We can perfectly present our product or service, but at the same time be afraid to raise the topic of money. In some cases, this is what stops us when we want to start our own business. And if the product is sold, but the client is in no hurry to pay for it, we avoid this delicate topic.
Some women distributors of cosmetics sell it to their friends at cost, explaining that it is a hobby for them. It is psychologically difficult for them to start making money on their service. We confidently communicate with the client, competently build a dialogue, however, as soon as it comes to payment, our voice changes. We seem to apologize and feel embarrassed.
Inona no azo atao?
Rehearse in advance and record on video how you voice the cost of your services to a client or talk about a promotion with your superiors. “Imagine yourself as a person who already has a successful business, play the role of someone who can talk about money confidently,” suggests motivational coach Bruce Stayton. – When you can play this scene convincingly, play it many times. In the end, you will find that you can discuss these topics calmly, and you will automatically speak with a new intonation.
There is no need to be afraid to dream, but it is important to concretize the dream and turn it into a business plan, writing down the strategy step by step. “Your plan should be horizontal, that is, include specific, small steps,” explains Marina Myaus. “Aiming at the pinnacle of success can work against you if you are so anxious about not achieving your intended triumphant goal that you stop doing anything.”
“Visualizing exactly what you need the money for can often help motivate you to take action,” says Bruce Staton. – After you have drawn up a step-by-step business plan, describe in detail all the pleasant bonuses that material opportunities will bring into your life. If this is new housing, travel or helping loved ones, describe in detail how the new house will look like, what countries you will see, how you can please your loved ones.